@CallMeTheMack post inspired me to write this so thank you brother!

There’s a question I think more men need to ask themselves today:
Why are so many black men still chasing love like it’s the 1990s?

Because the truth is, the world has changed.

A lot of men, and mostly black American men were raised on an idea of romance that came from movies, from stories, and especially from music. I know I was. Think about the golden era of R&B — artists like Boyz II Men, Keith Sweat, Brian McKnight, Jodici, and R. Kelly singing about devotion, sacrifice, and giving your whole life to one woman. Those songs painted a picture of “love” as the ultimate goal.

But that is now a dead era💀

Today, the landscape of relationships is very different. The smart phone and later media changed things. Economics changed things. Expectations changed. And yet many men , especially black American men are still operating with a script written decades ago.

They’re chasing love as if it’s guaranteed to reward them. It is NOT guaranteed.

But here’s the uncomfortable reality:
Love isn’t always the system people are operating in anymore. Especially women.

A lot of modern relationships run on incentives, lifestyle, and opportunity. Whether men like it or not, the dynamics are often closer to negotiation than fairy tale. And when you don’t understand the system you’re in, you “will” lose — emotionally, financially, and mentally.

That’s why @CoachGregAdams promotes his “CGA Free Agent Lifestyle”. The idea isn’t about bitterness. It’s about independence. Mastering your masculine. Seeing a possible future that goes beyond your wildest imagination that wouldn’t have been possible pursuing relationships/pussy as the be all get all.

It’s about a man focusing on his purpose, his finances, his peace of mind, and his freedom before chasing validation through women and relationships.

Because here’s the truth many black men foolishly ignore:

Every hour spent desperately chasing love is an hour not spent building your life.

That’s time not invested in your career.
Not invested in your health.

Not invested in your skills, your network, your financial future.

And when men sacrifice their development for the hope of love, they often end up disappointed — not because love is 100% impossible, but because they built their life around something they couldn’t control. Not even “sharia law” control this. I personally think that some of your niggaz that always bring up “sharia law” just want an “override” button to “free pussy.” Stop acting like fucking scavengers and fucking boss up and pay for it!!!

Meanwhile, the men who focus on themselves first often end up with options later. Remember the leverage and options conversation?

So maybe the real question isn’t “Why can’t I find love?”

Maybe the real question is:

“Why am I making love the center of my life in the first place?”

Because a man with purpose, discipline, and independence doesn’t chase validation. Validation comes with the success of accomplishments.

He builds value. In sales, I learned early on that to sell something, you have to build value.

And when you build value — in your life, your finances, and your mindset — everything else becomes a choice, not a pathetic desperate pursuit!