Story Time Here on GreyHaize Radio

This is a long one...

A friend of mine, who's basically my brother, got married when he was like 19. He joined the service right after. Him and his wife had two kids almost back to back....that was 27 years ago. He ended up retiring from the service. He left there with a pension and some disability checks coming in. He got out and got another job, so he also has a 401K going. Oh, the service also paid for his kids college.

Now, one would think he would be set...right?

NOPE!!!

Right after he retired, his wife pulled the "I'M NOT HAPPY" card and laid that bitch squarely on the table. Now, he took that better than most and said..."alright, I'm out", and moved out. He started a business and things were starting to take off. Keep in mind, him and his wife were still married.

He ended up meeting another chick and she was in a "tough spot", so they decided to move in together.

TERRIBLE!!

Anyway, that didn't last long as he was paying for that spot, business stuff, kids stuff, plus his marital home.

So, him and that chick parted ways and he moved back in with the wife.

DOUBLE TERRIBLE

Oh..OH...important factoid, right before his wife pulled the card out, she stopped working. So, that played a part into why he was coming out of so much money.

Alright...all of this was about 3 or 4 years ago. Meaning, he's been living with the women who wanted to divorce him, but "changed her mind", since then.

According to him, leading up to the "end", she started to kind of lose it...like, actually kind of crazy.

Anyway, now we're at the present day. He's still full steam ahead with the divorce, but the wife is dragging her feet. She didn't show up for multiple hearings and that was after she ducked being served the papers for like 6 months.

Remember, they're living together while all of this is happening. I've tried to remind him over and over that she is the one that started this shit. I also told him it's no coincidence she quit her job AND HASN'T HAD ONE SINCE, right around the time of separation.

He can't hear me. He takes up for her and wants to make sure she's okay. Which, to a certain extent, I get. They've been together over half of their lives, BUT..divorce changes all of that. He still can't see it.

Continuing...and this is the part that really got me.

I was talking to him about the separation of assets...houses and what not. He said he doesn't have to pay alimony, but he will lost half of his pension. I'm not sure about the 401K, but half of that is probably gone too. He also said, he wished he did have to pay her alimony, just to make sure she's alright.

I said..

"THA FUCK YOU SAY? WTF do you mean?

He went back to being worried about her...blah blah.

And OH..it gets worse.

I asked about the house. I said it would make sense to just sell it and you guys get whatever money, split it and move on.

This dude said, "I want to keep the house" Meaning, he's going to get a HELOC, pay her out, refinance and then keep paying on the house.

So, if you're not keeping track. The one that wanted the divorce will get, half of his pension, possibly half of his 401K, AND a few hundred thousand dollars, and he wants her to get more

There literally aren't enough face palms.

I tried to talk to him. I tried to point him to Coach. Hell, I've been trying to point him to Coach for like 4 years. He doesn't listen. Oh also, he's been getting "advice" from his two sisters and his mom, which is fucking terrible, but that probably explains a lot.

Anyway, I had to "say this out loud" because I just....I mean...WTF man?

Like I said, that's my best friend, I genuinely care about him and I don't want to see him go down the path he's going down, but it's like he's voluntarily putting the rope around his neck financially, all for a women who has been making his life a living hell for like 6 years and will continue to do so for the foreseeable future.

Ugh....I just can't....

GreyHaize Out!